Golden Girl or NOT

HOW A LEADER TOUGHS IT OUT ALONE By Frances Arevalo-Abuso I needed to read and pray hard in order to avoid   falling prey to my most selfish and destructive instincts while leading a big department.   For my people to feel respected, I simply focused on controlling   my actions and   moods.   I reprimanded in private and appreciated in public.   For faculty to be productive, I   valued their dignity and coached   more often.      I observed constructive   tête-à-tête and I fairly mediate petty disputes. I made sure I was not oblivious to my subordinates.   I truthfully cared even if at times,   they did not grasp this. More importantly, my success as a leader would imply   convincing my people that my   words and deeds packed a punch. I had to assure them that I am   loyal and discreet. No matter how incompetent or unpleasant   subordinates may be,   I   certainly di...

HOW A LEADER TOUGHS IT OUT ALONE By Frances Arevalo-Abuso   I needed to read and pray hard in order to avoid   falling prey to my most selfish and destructive instincts while leading a big department.   For my people to feel respected, I simply focused on controlling   my actions and   moods.   I reprimanded in private and appreciated in public.   For faculty to be productive, I   valued their dignity and coached   more often.      I observed constructive   tête-à-tête and I fairly mediate petty disputes. I made sure I was not oblivious to my subordinates.   I truthfully cared even if at times,   they did not grasp this.           More importantly, my success as a leader would imply   convincing my people that my   words and deeds packed a punch. I had to assure them that I am   loyal and discreet. No matter how incompetent or unpleasant   subordin...

HOW A LEADER LEAVES A TRAIL            Why does it   matter   to   tread softly so I could go   farther?   Because one of the inconvenient truths I recently learned was the inevitable  tolerance for mediocrity.  I got dismayed knowing that once one starts  accepting mediocrity in  life, one becomes a magnet for mediocrity in his life. It was sad having read  Kevin Kwans’ Crazy Rich Asians but none  from my associates could  relate  to  me as this  international best seller was unheard of.  Worst was knowing the fact  that what I spend the most of my  time on  is what and who  I am going to be. It would then take a  whole lot of  discipline and courage to refuse mediocrity. I walked my talk all the time and proved what I say with  action.   Instead of watching Korea novelas, I read extensively  or widely lis...

                HOW A LEADER DEFAULTS TO YES Keeping   that balanced self-esteem while leading is quite a challenge.  Admittedly, I did struggle with taming my  self–esteem in my more  than a decade of serving in a progressive yet atypical  workplace.    As I turned golden girl some few years ago, I thought that I needed to   treat  myself with  love and respect that I  truly deserved  I simply taught myself to let off even when   the big boss suddenly throws tantrum at the board room.   I would initially get deeply affronted by the  callousness and   awful atmosphere.  But in the long run, I accepted the fact that rudeness or contemptuous indifference to courtesy in the business world is  part of the  game. Simply put, I made friends with myself and sooner or later  made  this  part of my lifestyle....

HOW A LEADER DOES IT RIGHT When leaders make tough decisions, I observe that they can either be followers or doers.   Resembling  ducks in the pond, these follower leaders simply   trail the lead duck.   They are imperceptibles who certainly never take the chance to come up with a bold decision.   Such as a leader who fails to endorse for faculty development and such as a leader who disregards newbies’ promotion. They don’t really make waves.   Distinctively, leaders who soar like eagles, are independent and broad-minded.   They   look at the company   in a wide-ranging   context.    They program training; they take time-off with their people and they recharge their workforce.   They are simply   doers   who   take even few   steps to recognize their people for a job well-done.   N othing really beats a balance of seasoned experience   from an ATENEAN graduate   and ...

HOW A WOMAN LEADER CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND SUCCEED It is not enough for a leader to merely stir her people to give their all at work.   The leader has to keep sharpening her saw by taking the time out for personal renewal.   With my physical dimension, I make sure to go walking outdoors or hit   the treadmill at home.   More often, I go out with close   friends, chat and   eat out.   I also love shopping especially     clothes and much more window-shopping in the malls. My continuous learning activities such as presenting research papers, reading fiction and blogging have not only enriched my life but   also   created   positive impact on how I interact with my people. It too does     take a huge share of willpower to enlist people at work. The leader has to develop a tough personal   character lined up with principles of human   effectiveness.    Birthday celebrations are highl...